Keep this in mindCaring about someone does not require you to do all the work of keeping the friendship alive.
If this feels bigger than it should, that does not mean you are doing it wrong. Most hard things become more manageable when you stop trying to solve every part at once.
A simple plan
- Name the specific pattern you have noticed instead of deciding what it means about you.
- Ask for one concrete change, such as taking turns making plans or checking in.
- Watch what happens over time and give yourself permission to step back if nothing changes.
Make the next step smaller
Choose the easiest action on this page and give it ten minutes. You can stop, adjust, or ask someone to join you after that. Small progress still counts, especially on a hard day.
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